Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto by Dr Brené Brown

“We will practice courage in our family by showing up”
— Dr Brené Brown
Family photo session in Te Kuiti

I recently listened to the most amazing podcast from Oprah Winfrey's Super Soul Sundays where she spoke with Dr Brené Brown. It really resonated with me so I wanted to share it with you all.

Dr Brown believes every household needs a manifesto to live by. She gained her PhD by looking into the way people deal with vulnerability. Amazing stuff which you can find more about here.

Anyway, so this manifesto. She recommends we all write something similar and put it where everyone in the household can see it. Like a companies mission statement, I suppose.

Here is it...

Above all else. I want you to know that you are loved and loveable. You will learn this from my words and my actions, the lessons on love are in how I treat you and how I treat myself.

I want you to engage with the world from a place of worthiness. You will learn that you are worthy of love, belonging and joy every time you see me practice self-compassion and embrace my own imperfections.

We will practice courage in our family by showing up, letting ourselves be seen and honouring vulnerability. We will share our stories of struggle and strength and there will always be room in our home for both.

We will teach you compassion by practising compassion with ourselves first then with each other.

I want you to know joy so together we will practice gratitude.

I want you to feel joy so together we will learn how to be vulnerable.

Together we will cry and face fear and grief. I will want to take away your pain but instead, I will sit with you and teach you how to feel it.

We will laugh and sing and dance and create, we will always have permission to be ourselves with each other and no matter what you will always belong here.

As you begin your wholehearted journey the greatest gift that I can give to you is to live and love with my whole heart and to dare greatly.

I will not teach or love or show you anything perfectly, but I will let you see me and I will always hold sacred the gift of seeing you, truly deeply seeing you.

 - Dr Brené Brown



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